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      • MaybeALittleBitWeird@lemmynsfw.com
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        12 days ago

        There are a number of reasons. First and foremost though I just want to address a common misconception that Findom(me) =/= Prodom(me):

        • Prodomme is what you would consider a stereotypical dungeon dominatrix. You are paying a professional for use of their time, space, and knowledge for bdsm services.

        • Findom is short for Financial Domination. It involves a relationship where a submissive(almost exclusively male) gives money to a dominant(almost exclusively female) and generally involves elements of humiliation of some form for the act.

        It’s frowned upon because it’s extremely exploitative and violates a lot of mutual respect tenets of BDSM play. Typically it’s used as an easy guise which is low hanging fruit for lazy sex workers and scammers trying to make a quick buck and can easily get out of hand quickly for a site that leaves it unchecked. It exists in the same vein as Sugar Daddy/Sugar Baby play, but without even pretending to have a relationship beyond financial gain.

        • BigFatNips@sh.itjust.worksEnglish
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          12 days ago

          Very educational! Thank you so much. Figured it was something concerning the exploitative nature of it, but it’s nice to have so much detail

          • MaybeALittleBitWeird@lemmynsfw.com
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            12 days ago

            Sure thing! I’m not one to kinkshame and there’s very few things I will absolutely not tolerate as long as everyone’s consenting, but this is one of them.

            In a vacuum I’m sure there are situations where it’s acceptable, but in the real world it’s almost exclusively used in a predatory manner against a vulnerable population.