cross-posted from: https://linux.community/post/1144192
you might be an introvert, passionate about your job, or simply old enough to disregard friendships at work because you already have enough friends and a family.
The coworkers I like the most are the ones that come to work, don’t like drama, do their job and go home. That’s what I try to do.
However, there are always some established cliques who know how to play the unit / supervisor and get away doing much less, even feeling entitled to order you around, even though they are not your supervisor.
To people who experience this. How do you tolerate it? Even after changing jobs, this can happen at your new workplace, maybe it happens in every workplace?
I used to be more sensitive to feeling like other people were getting more recognition for less work.
Over time though I’ve grown to realize that usually they are just doing something that I don’t fully understand yet, and I’ve gotten far greater rewards from trying to learn from them.
That’s a very well adjusted point of view.
Don’t be like me, that bottles up resentment that comes out in unexpected ways, which then leads to you being the first one laid off because you’re the least enjoyable to work with.
I don’t begrudge a coworker befriending a supervisor. Maybe they are genuinely friends.
As much as you like people who come in a do their job and go home. Many others like it when they come in and a friend is there and they can chat, have a good time, and still get their responsibilities done.
If they can’t get their work done, then it’s a supervisors issue. You don’t have to do their workload.
If you like doing your job and going home
You enjoy your employment and you even enjoy your commute. Then what’s the problem? Are your coworkers having an even better time at work than you are? I don’t understand.
What the guy over there said.
Suffer it.
Ideally, get to where you accept it.
Sorry to shortcut the process, but if you can’t fix it and especially if you’d risk your own employment trying, it’s better to keep your own job and the reduce the amount that this person lives rent-free in your feelings.
Moreover, if you see other people around you doing less, then you’re under no obligation to do more than they do. Even if you prefer doing your job well, on those days where you’re not up for it, don’t feel bad about doing less. As long as that doesn’t affect how your immediate manager/supervisor/boss evaluates you, do what you need to.
And let them do what they do. And if they get away with it, that’s not up to you to remedy. Employment can be as simple as an agreement to do the minimun needed for them to keep paying you as little as they can get away with. And we’re not likely to fix that problem today. 😉
Best wishes and peace.
Just play the long game, which is focusing on getting good at your job to develop your own competency. In the long term, competency will help you get ahead.
Being popular at work is one of the competencies though, so you need to figure that one out too. Branch out and improve your social skills.
People are capable of rallying around someone who’s reliable. Reliability in work becomes a big part of likability, actually. And if that’s not the case, you can nudge the culture it in that direction by thanking people for delivering what they promised to you when they promised to do it.
Basically, when personal status and competency at the job are out of sync, that’s an unhealthy state for the workplace. You can (to a degree) fix your own problem and the workplace’s problem at the same time, by just using your own voice to acknowledge and appreciate when people do their jobs well.
It’s a good feeling to go after a team as a goal, and doing the job well is a co-op aspect of the workplace. It’s like bros at the gym: each person might be working on their own thing, but they share an interest in getting better. Even if the company doesn’t have any other inspiring direction, the direction you can share with your coworkers can be “doing this in an excellent way”.
So all of this boils down to a couple simple things, and the game works at many levels. It works immediately and long term, and for yourself and everyone else:
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Decide that your reason for doing the job well is primarily that it feels better than doing it poorly. Train yourself to do the job well for the pleasure of a job well done.
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Speak up and recognize others when they do their jobs well.
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If someone tells you to do their job, tell them ‘no.’
If the supervisor tells you to do it, tell the supervisor that you can’t handle more responsibilities because you’re at your limit.
You have to stand up for yourself.
I’m perfectly happy to make your life easier but not at the expense of making mine more difficult
I have a base load where I simply couldn’t do less if I tried or I’d die of boredom and simply envy anyone who can.
also any shitkicker who fancys themselves in charge will quickly get told to act their fucking wage.
However, there are always some established cliques who know how to play the unit / supervisor and get away doing much less, even feeling entitled to order you around, even though they are not your supervisor.
This frustrated me, until I discovered that many of those folks, who looked lazy to me, understood our business better than I did, and were focusing their efforts on what really mattered.
It somewhat depends. Is it unionized work? Is it hourly or salary? What type of work, and what are the metrics for quality/quantity of output?
Do you want to focus on your job or a social club ?
Dude. There is workplace politics.
If that matters, then it’s part of the job, not a social club
No its not. Its what happens when you get a bunch of people in the room. The job description does not mention socializing with people.
Pick your lane dude. I’m saying the post as described focuses on the job description.
So, should you care about the job, or the chit chat?
If politics are required for the job, but not listed in the job description (real world) then that must be discussed. If not, focus on your work.
what lane dude?
So, should you care about the job, or the chit chat?
the job, duh, but you also get skipped on promotions and other shit cause youre not involved in the chitchat. its how the politics affect your career. have you had a job before?
If politics are required for the job, but not listed in the job description (real world) then that must be discussed. If not, focus on your work.
which job actually lists “take part in office politics” in the job description?
Obviously. Are you trying to obscure things?
I’ve clearly stated that if “you” feel you need to handle the office politics to succeed, then that’s a conversation to have.
If your job allows you to focus on your task without political concerns (like specific contract work where promotion isn’t a thing), then who cares about the social cliques?
cool bro, have a nice day
Sometimes it’s couched as “team player”. Some jobs I had it absolutely mattered who you were friends with.
mattered
But briefly, am I right? That kind of problem is best solved by changing your work address.
Well if there’s a choice - social club. What’s even the point of having a job if you work all day just to survive and then try to squeeze socializing in the little time that remains until you need to sleep
Post said “if you like doing your job”
So discussion on changing work life balance isn’t relevant.
It’s not a competition, you don’t need to compare yourself to your coworkers or police their work ethic.
Now if they’re ordering you around that’s another issue.
In as much as it pertains to me, I don’t tolerate it. Otherwise, if people want to bullshit their way through their career, I don’t really care. This happens in every company that has more than one employee (almost).
If someone else starts ordering me around when they don’t have the authority to do so, assuming it would change my course of action, I’ll tell them politely that I might be able to get to that when I have time. If they escalate it, I tell them to talk to my boss about rearranging my priorities. And if they do that and succeed, that’s fine. Once you establish that you don’t report to them, I’ve found they typically leave me alone. If not, I talk to my boss about it in private.
I’m in a similar situation and I’m taking it poorly because I feel that it is affecting the possibilities of the company, and with that mines as well. So currently I’m in the process of searching for a place that can have more future. Which being also an introvert is being quite a hell.
I’m in the process of searching for a place that can have more future.
Take note folks, this how it is done!
They don’t pay or treat u right, get your a new corpo komissars who will pretend to do it for a bit
Do less too, if anyone dares to complain, document and point out the double standard then remind your employer that discrimination is illegal. If they punish you, sue and get rich I guess.
Or
Find a new job
Or
Just ignore it if you aren’t stressed out with the amount of work you have
Or
Play the game too, humans are social creatures at the end of the day
We don’t really know your life or situation so at best, all the advice here is educated guessing or worse.
