The easiest way is to shut down blatent sexism you see around in posts and comments. I wouldn’t even be aggressive about it. Just a “hey, that’s not cool” and downvote.
Problem is, a lot of folks are “jokingly” sexist, while also only kinda joking? Either way, I think there’s a line, but it’s going to be different for everyone, and I’m definitely not sure that I’m the one who gets to draw it. But when women are seeing openly gross posts about women, it is very off-putting and will cause them to shun a community.
Thanks. That makes total sense. I’m pretty grossed out by most tropes so my tolerance for what’s “just joking” is minimal. I believe I do what you suggest IRL. My 8 yr old son does too. There’s a great Ted talk called feminism is a man’s problem or something that reshaped my perspective many years ago - we have to use our privileges to upstand bc only haves can give power, have nots can’t just manifest it. In any hierarchical dichotomy. I try to make space in work meetings and help people feel comfortable speaking and telling those with the privilege to be comfortable to stfu sometimes. I think the difficult part for some men (I know how those words sound together!) is reconciling wanting to help but not knowing how to ask whether it’s welcome and they fear it’ll be construed as offensive. Perhaps bc society allows boys will be boys, and they’re never taught how to communicate boundaries.
I’m a dude. Can I help?
Yes. Always.
The easiest way is to shut down blatent sexism you see around in posts and comments. I wouldn’t even be aggressive about it. Just a “hey, that’s not cool” and downvote.
Problem is, a lot of folks are “jokingly” sexist, while also only kinda joking? Either way, I think there’s a line, but it’s going to be different for everyone, and I’m definitely not sure that I’m the one who gets to draw it. But when women are seeing openly gross posts about women, it is very off-putting and will cause them to shun a community.
Thanks. That makes total sense. I’m pretty grossed out by most tropes so my tolerance for what’s “just joking” is minimal. I believe I do what you suggest IRL. My 8 yr old son does too. There’s a great Ted talk called feminism is a man’s problem or something that reshaped my perspective many years ago - we have to use our privileges to upstand bc only haves can give power, have nots can’t just manifest it. In any hierarchical dichotomy. I try to make space in work meetings and help people feel comfortable speaking and telling those with the privilege to be comfortable to stfu sometimes. I think the difficult part for some men (I know how those words sound together!) is reconciling wanting to help but not knowing how to ask whether it’s welcome and they fear it’ll be construed as offensive. Perhaps bc society allows boys will be boys, and they’re never taught how to communicate boundaries.