Sure, “nice” needs some definition.

But that’s your call. I’m asking you if you are a nice person.

  • SorteKanin@feddit.dk
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    19 days ago

    I think I am. I think I’m nicer than most people (cringing at myself for saying that but I can’t think of a humbler way to phrase it while still being honest).

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      19 days ago

      It’s weird that most people probably think they are nice, because that’s pretty subjective. Like someone can be in the KKK but thinks he’s like a really nice dude. I think i’m nice because i would sacrifice a weekend to help a friend move for example, or do stuff for my almost elderly neighbour and so on. But no one could bring me to go to my uncle’s birthday party and socialise with his friends, and i guess that’s not very nice of me. So i don’t know.

  • Glide@lemmy.ca
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    20 days ago

    I take “nice” to mean something very different than “good” or “kind”. No, I am not a nice person. I am inclined to be an honest asshole over a nice liar. I try my best to be good, kind, understanding, etc., but “nice” is, in my books, more about manners than good acts or genuine understanding. And I generally feel that time and effort spent on attempting to be “nice” is much better spent on genuinely empathizing with and supporting people, even when that support isn’t kind or well-mannered at a glance.

    I think I just take issue with the word “nice”.

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      20 days ago

      I like you. I’m the same way. Never met an asshole that was being dishonest. That’s why I feel like I can trust them more than I can trust ‘nice’ people.

      So yeah, I might not be nice. In fact, sometimes I’m a downright asshole. But I’ll usually give you the shirt off of my back to help you if you need it.

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    20 days ago

    I’m balanced.

    I’ll help you push you car. I’ll hold the door for anyone, I’ll let you in, in traffic. I’ll over-tip the wait staff, even the ones having a bad day. I give kids in my neighborhood freezypops when it’s hot AF. I’ll go out of my way to make sure your food allergy is covered and you’ll have safe snacks at my gathering.

    I won’t give the guy begging on the corner money. I won’t help you forever if you never reciprocate. You skip a paycheck, I won’t wait for you to get it sorted.

    I won’t remember that you hate mushrooms. I won’t remember your kids name or wife’s face. I’ll forget you birthday if it’s not in my calendar. I’ll tell you I need to focus on something for an hour and go take a nap.

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    18 days ago

    I have some very serious mood swings. Generally, I’m pretty nice. But if I’m in a bad mood, I turn into a very rude person.

    Wow, I really need therapy, don’t I?

  • explodicle@sh.itjust.works
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    18 days ago

    Nope. I’m thinking of taking acting classes or something because I try to be nice and it doesn’t come across that way at all.

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    18 days ago

    Other people seem to think so, but I am not any nicer on the outside than on the inside, not unfailingly polite and certainly get defensive sometimes.

    So I am going to say yes because what’s on the outside is what I feel in the inside, and people think I am nice.

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    18 days ago

    I like to think so. I put a lot of effort into trying to be someone I would want to be friends with, and there are times I slip up of course, but generally I think of myself as someone who is nice.

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    18 days ago

    I think so. I’m kind and caring, I have really great friends who wouldn’t be if I wasn’t also a genuinely good person.

    I haven’t always been but I always tried to be. For a long time I was really chaotic and had some personal issues that made it hard for me to like actually follow through with it. But I worked on myself a lot and I continue to. I still fuck up and I’m sure there’s people who think I’m a dick. But for the most part I’m a nice, kind person