Edit: while I’m at it, does anyone know what I should do when I’m waiting for a coincidence/adventure to happen, but it never comes? I can’t really go outside and arrange for it to happen because I don’t know what I’m looking for.
“Life sucks and then you die” - Vince McMahon
“Necessary? Is it necessary that I drink my own urine? No! I do it because it’s sterile and I enjoy the taste!”
Meaning: It doesn’t matter if it’s necessary, you should still do things because you enjoy doing it.
dodge duck dip dive and dodge
Be angry at the sun for setting If these things anger you.
-Robinson Jeffers
don’t get angry on things that are out of your control.
This is a good one. People around me get angry about the stupidest things.
The true mind can weather all the lies and illusions without being lost. The true heart can touch the poison of hatred without being harmed.
-Badass Lion Turtle
I neither have true mind nor true heart :(
“Never half-ass two things. Whole-ass one thing.”
-Ron Swanson
This one really applies to me right now. It’s just so hard to bring yourself to do the whole-hearted thing when the whole-hearted thing comes at a price
“You’re imagining everyone in this story way more attractive than they actually were.”
- some reddit guyDon’t sweat the small stuff. Just let it go.
“Kindness is more important than wisdom, and the recognition of this is the beginning of wisdom.”
That’s much nicer than the way I used to put it: “Nobody likes assholes. So it doesn’t matter if you are right, if you still are an asshole.”
Haha true. Yet they say the equivalent thing
Building self esteem requires esteemable acts.
Always have an exit plan.
Not sure it’s really a quote, so maybe it doesn’t count … but it’s such common wisdom that it probably should count.
I never really appreciated it until I went through something where the wisdom of it would have made the difference. The slightly more precise version, IMO, is that whenever you’re in a position where something beyond your control can have a substantial influence on the outcome, you need an exit plan before you commit to that position, where that plan includes the definition of the conditions which trigger both the preparation of the execution of the plan and the time to actually exit.
The whole idea is to be prepared to not get fucked by other people or bad luck. And half of the benefit of having the plan is in the perspective it gives you. Instead of having Stockholm syndrome or suffering from the sunk cost fallacy, you naturally assess your situation as the set of trade offs that it is and more naturally perceive the toxic people that are essentially stuck in their worlds and either hold others back or propagate the culture that holds others back.
Make sure you have the plan, including the trigger conditions, formulated ahead of time, and regularly think back on the plan as you’re going along, adjusting or reassessing as necessary.
This is game-changingly good advice. I just wish it was easier to come up with exit plans. I have often found myself stuck in situations where there was no clear or realizable exit plan opportunity, which meant I wasted a lot of time being stuck in the Stockholm syndrome situation, and resenting it.
Yea, sometimes you don’t have many options and that’s just kinda life. But if you don’t have to commit to a situation, project, job etc … I think it will always help to at least try to come up with an exit plan, because even if there isn’t a good one, it helps you frame everything in terms of trade offs and understand that most things, at some point, just aren’t worth it because there are always other options (at least that’s how I see things now, as someone who hasn’t valued being flexible and agile in life nearly enough).
Can confirm. I was an employee at a pizza place - and thus allowed to use the staff exit - for just one night.
Exit was used.
“Heroes are not giant statues framed against a red sky, they are people who say ‘This is my community and it’s my responsibility to make it better.’” - Tom McCall, Oregon Governor 1967-1974.
“I’ll take a weird person over a mean person any day.”
“Hey, hey… don’t be mean; we don’t have to be mean; remember, no matter where you go, there you are.”
I am wiser than this man; for neither of us really knows anything fine and good, but this man thinks he knows something when he does not, whereas I, as I do not know anything, do not think I do either. I seem, then, in just this little thing to be wiser than this man at any rate, that what I do not know I do not think I know either.
- Socrates at the trial where he was sentenced to death, in Plato’s Apology
“I’ve learned that life is one crushing defeat after another until you just wish Flanders was dead”
-Homer Simpson
