Sometimes we use the other bathroom, same deal. I never find the lid down, she never finds it up.

I feel like this is some magic that should never be talked about openly, like we agreed without speech and discussing it would break something. Lived with many women, this has never happened.

I’m just being weird, aren’t I? I love her for it in any case.

EDIT: I wasn’t clear. I’m talking about the seat. We’re gross and don’t put the lid down when we flush. Yes, I’m aware that tosses bacteria around, don’t care. Unless one of us ends up with a compromised immune system, it’s not a big deal. And we pretty much never fall ill.

  • lovely_reader@lemmy.world
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    6 days ago

    You must not have the soft close feature. I hate standing around for 20 seconds waiting for the soft close seat to drop so I can pee (learned the hard way that if you force it, it wears out in a couple years). So that would probably have killed this little ritual as soon as she had to go twice before you came along to put the seat down for her. It would annoy you sometimes too I bet, unless you stand up to shit.

    Still, even though you don’t want to spoil the magic, maybe there are other ways to show affection, because (in order of importance):

    1. Farticles on every surface ew?
    2. It’s ugly to see straight into a toilet bowl when the bathroom is in view (and also very bad Feng Shui)
    3. Habit/muscle memory will likely lead her to leave toilet seats up when she is a guest elsewhere, which is kind of hilarious actually, but could be hilarious at her expense

    Admittedly, none of this is what you asked. But it’s weird how many people try to make toilet seats a fairness thing. If the lid is kept down, everyone has to take it from closed to open and back to closed again. Isn’t that fair?

  • Etterra@discuss.onlineEnglish
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    6 days ago

    You should always close the lid before flushing. Look up the words “fecal spray” but not while eating.

  • magnetosphere@fedia.io
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    7 days ago

    You’re not being weird. You’re being silently courteous to one another. Follow your instincts and say nothing.

    • shalafi@lemmy.worldOPEnglish
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      7 days ago

      THAT’S what I’m feelin’! I should probably leave it as it, but it’s so nice.

  • AmidFuror@fedia.io
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    7 days ago

    I feel like you meant to say “seat” instead of “lid,” or your post doesn’t make sense, yet almost every comment takes it at face value.

    • shalafi@lemmy.worldOPEnglish
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      6 days ago

      I did indeed mean “seat”. Neither of us put the lid down. Technically gross? Sure, but IDGAF. I flush and turn my head away, not like I’m huffing e. coli.

      • AmidFuror@fedia.io
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        6 days ago

        Thanks for clarifying. I don’t know how people made sense of it as lid despite their trying to clarify for me (which I appreciate).

        I am aware of fecal aerosols, and I do put the lid down because of it, but for many years I did not. It’s not enough to demonstrate that the flush spreads germs. You need to show that this has clinical relevance.

        I suspect the lid down behavior is due to fear and the yuck factor but has very little impact on rates of actual illness.

    • Steve@communick.newsEnglish
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      7 days ago

      No, he means lid.

      I always put the seat and lid down before flushing. Yet none of the women I’ve ever lived with, put the lid back down when they’re done. So I frequently approach a lid that’s up, not covering a seat that’s down.

      • Aggravationstation@feddit.uk
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        6 days ago

        Yea this actually used to annoy me with a female friend who’d come over. Other than the droplet spray issue, my cats fascinated by the water in the toilet. He generally tries to follow anyone going to the bathroom anyway to keep you company as they often do. But as soon as you open the door with the lid up he runs straight over, starts pawing at the water and very quickly ends up falling in head first.

        I always wonder if he thinks his own reflection is another cat. I think that’s what was going on with my last cat when he would stare at the washing machine.

      • Mouselemming@sh.itjust.works
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        7 days ago

        But he loves her for it. Which I think means she’s courteously flipping up both the seat and the lid, to be ready for him to pee.

        • Steve@communick.newsEnglish
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          7 days ago

          He never mentioned the seat. He says nothing remotely suggesting she’s doing it intentionally. He loves that they have a perfect alternating bathroom schedule, as though they’re synchronized. That’s all.

          • Mouselemming@sh.itjust.works
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            7 days ago

            I disagree and it rests with him to clarify. But she loves him for (among many other reasons I’m sure) the fact she never falls in if she’s creeping sleepily to the loo in the middle of the night.

            • Peppycito@sh.itjust.works
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              7 days ago

              I’ve never pissed on the lid while creeping sleepily to the loo in the middle of the night. I don’t see how people falling in toilets haven’t stubbed their toes clean off, walking around blindly all the time.

              • Mouselemming@sh.itjust.works
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                6 days ago

                I fell in once while 8 months pregnant, a time when one’s bladder is frequently kicked in the middle of the night. The path to the loo was well-worn, no stubbing. I didn’t want to wake my husband and the bathroom lightswitch is outside the door.

                • Peppycito@sh.itjust.works
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                  6 days ago

                  Those are extenuating circumstances. All allowances should be made for pregnant ladies. All other times I’m a lid down man. That time when I was drunk and squished my balls while sitting on the lid were my own damn fault.