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Cake day: July 6th, 2023

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  • The internet has ruined me. I fully expected a punchline about uninstalling Life.

    Great game though, agreed. Stupid thing had me waking up at 6am as a child to attend morning aerobics.

    And Kiki stole something from me before I could save with it. I forget if it was an igloo item or a painting. I liked her but not at that moment! Looking back though, little frustrations like that made the game more charmingly alive.



  • No kids. They’re a huge, life long commitment that you need to be willing to sacrifice everything for. Your happiness, your sanity, your time, your money… everything.

    And I’m not the type of person who wants kids nearly enough to do that.

    Especially when people tell me that I should for reasons like having a caretaker when I’m older. I’m not attached to my parents enough to do that. Why would I expect that of anything I pop out? And what a horrible selfish reason to make a new human that is!

    If the only reason I’d be having a kid is selfish reasons in the distant future that aren’t even a guarantee, then that’s not worth sacrificing myself for right now.

    Nothing against other people who want to be parents, so long as they’re prepared and not doing it as some sort of life insurance or to make a clone of themselves.










  • On the other site I had to leave the asexual spaces because they became oddly sexual. And that made me really uncomfortable in a space I was specifically in for the company of other not sexual people.

    They even got super defensive and called you things like acephobic for pointing out that asexuality and graysexuality are not the same thing and deserve their own spaces so everyone can be comfortable.

    There’s the trauma thing, too. If someone claimed that a person “became” heterosexual, homosexual, or bisexual due to trauma, they’d be rightly called out that it doesn’t work that way. And yet the asexual communities started saying that trauma can cause asexuality. No, it doesn’t, it causes trauma. Saying sexual trauma can cause an orientation is not only silly, it’s downright harmful to all because people will be told that trauma is okay and that asexuality can be “cured”. Both are horrible to imply.

    I hope that Lemmy will have a more sane, comfortable asexual community. I’m here cautiously now, watching and hoping it doesn’t become a sexual community using the asexual label as a badge instead of a useful term describing a completely natural orientation alongside Hetero/Homo/Bisexual.

    None of this is at you, OP. Just a bit of a vent and a hope for a better tomorrow.