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Cake day: July 10th, 2023

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  • You said you were out sick for 4 weeks? Do they know why? Maybe you could spin that, say “sorry, I got some scarring in my throat and talking can make it worse, so I really need to only talk about work or I’ll be up all night in pain”. Or something like that.

    Or you could try “sorry, I like working with you, and I know I’ve talked in the past, but I need to admit that I have Asperger’s/autism, and trying to make small talk is very stressful for me, so I hope you’re not offended but I feel like I’m going to burn out unless I make some changes like sticking to only work-oriented discussions from now on. Thank you for your understanding.”

    Bonus points if you type that up and hand it to people, like you can’t even tell it to then directly.

    I know both my answers are “lie in a way that makes you look abnormal” which you may feel like isn’t something you should have to do. Which is true. But you want to minimize them thinking you’re judging them, and they KNOW you are able to talk, so the best way I see is to make them think it’s a problem you have, not about them.

    🤷‍♂️ Good luck!









  • calabast@lemm.eeto196@lemmy.blahaj.zoneRule
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    2 months ago

    Hating someone your whole life is great in movies and video games, where the hater uses their drive, intelligence, resources and lack of concern about any consequences to pull off some really amazing revenge. But in the real world, I think most of us aren’t willing to go to the lengths needed to properly pay our hated back to someone. So if we can’t act on our hated to the level we feel they deserve, then the only person who would suffer from that hated is the person caryring it around, day after day. Of course, never forget what they did, you don’t want it to happen to you again, but forgiving isn’t about letting them off the hook, it’s about allowing yourself to start feeling good again.

    That being said, feel however you want to feel, I ain’t the feelings police. But that’s how I see it.