My wife kidnapped me on a Saturday, me thinking we were going to Costco. She kept driving and I was like “wtf!” We eventually stopped at a nice hotel, where we did a spa day and had a nice dinner and overnight. She had packed bags and made all arrangements under my nose. What a woman
That is so sweet! Hope you had a nice time!
She let me down easy.
That’s always appreciated considering how common the horrible act of ghosting is
Well, I’m friend zoned, but the clarity is good. I really don’t want any personal relationships and basically had my brain commandeered by horny. I needed accepted or shut down. Both are good.
I’m sorry things didn’t work out. But hey, if you’ve got a woman who cares about you and is your friend, maybe she can help augment your dating life. That happened for me last year. I met a super cool chick, developed a crush on her, she shot me down, but then she gave me tons of useful advice which I went on to use in landing my current amazing gf.
Ahh yeah, she’s gonna probably help me learn Spanish and she’s gonna help me with fashion!
I’m not really trying to have a dating life. I’m never gonna have kids because I don’t want to put more victims in the orphan crushing machine, and I won’t gamble by having sex. HOWEVER. This specific girl got me real down bad and I was beating myself up for a week or two over the fact that I wouldn’t be able to say no if she showed the slightest interest. It’s hard to say no to a cigarette at this point.
I’ve learned that my personal ethics can be compromised by a certain caliber of girl and was really glad to be shut down. It would have been really distressing for me. I was losing my mind sitting there with totally split up intentions and goals.
Obviously you don’t need to do anything you aren’t comfortable with, but there are lots of ways of having sex without worrying about having a kid. And plenty of people engage in serious relationships with the mutual understanding that they won’t have kids. Just putting it out there since it sounds like you are internally conflicted. I want to give you permission to seek love if you want to. It doesn’t have to look a certain way.
All of those ways are gambles. I have a friend who swam through a vasectomy. Also trust is beyond me, which is as good a reason as any for me to avoid personal relationships. I can and have been fooled several times by people who came across as completely trustworthy. That’s okay if it’s dude stealing my money and not giving me the promised drugs. It’s not okay where my most important ethical concerns lay.
For me, love is no better than being certain my responsibilities are taken care of. I’ll take care of me and my dog, and make sure to never make any new kids have to go through what’s been done to me.
I hope you find a way to open up and trust someone. I hope you find someone that makes you want to trust. It sounds like a very lonely and damaging way to live. Maybe you should look into therapy. It sounds like you have a lot of hangups from your past and have projected them into irrational assumptions about the people around you. Good luck, friend!
My mom stayed with me for a month after surgery to take care of me. I’m in my 30s and never expected to need so much help from my mom again but she was there for me. Also I was held in the hospital for 5 days instead of the expected 2-3. I was starting to lose it, no sense of time, drugged up to my eyeballs, okayish food, my mental health was nose diving. I had to be able to walk a certain amount before they would discharge me. Despite having been able to walk a previous day, the morning of the fifth day I couldn’t even stand. The nurses didn’t want me to push myself and were saying I may have to stay yet another day. I felt completely defeated like I’d be in the hospital forever. I texted someone I was having a difficult time and they called me, hyped me up, told me I could do it and everything would be okay. I managed to walk later that day and get out of the hospital because of that call
Godspeed on that recovery!
Thank you! It’s going pretty well so far no complications and I’m already able to walk a few miles a day. Now I just need to work on walking at speed instead of half my usual pace
One step at a time, one day at a time. You’ll be back on that skateboard before ya know it!
Someone was genuinely interested in how I’m doing.
Pancakes for breakfast a couple days in a row. We compared different maple syrup varieties: amber, dark, and extra dark. And compared a blueberry topping with blueberries cooked inside.
Honestly I can’t remember anymore. It’s been years.
Someone complimented me on the brisket I smoked and said they had never tasted something so good in their entire life.
I brought a sample of some porchetta I made to a coworker and he said he was leaving his wife for me. One of the best compliments I’ve received.
Had a friend pick up the tab for lunch. We’ve been back and forth the past month with schedules always not quite lining up, so he was excited to finally chat so much that he insisted on taking the bill.
My wife turned her happy birthday sign into a happy father’s day sign in the simplest, cutest way. I loved it.
…you just gonna leave it like that? Just not explain what it was she did? So we’re just leaving everyone in the dark??? Oh. Ok. Cool. Cool. We didn’t need to know anyways…
Guess time: A capital B can be turned info a capital F by marking over part of it. Then turn “ir” into an “a” with a thick line over it.
My sister has her birthday and Christmas close together, so to show my father what that feels like, I got a fathers day card for him (his birthday is close) and cut it in half in a way you couldn’t tell if it was ‘Fathers’ or ‘Birth’, and gave him half for each.
My wife bought me the book “Wool”. I just started reading it and it’s really good.
Best part of this book is that the rest are good, too
Once you finish the books, make sure to catch the series on Apple TV+, it’s a damn good adaptation.
One of my all time favorites. Glad you’re enjoying!
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Friends girlfriend lent me her hiking shoes when I picked him up to go hiking having forgotten mine.
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Payment was down at a hardware store and the manager just let me walk out with the $7 of screws I needed to finish my project that day
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Drove me to Maine for our annual family reunion. It was a blast!
Got into a jam while working on the fence today. Neighbor came over and helped. Would not have been able to do it alone.
GF walked the dogs and made dinner while I finished working on the fence. Got some more to do but lots of time.
Also thank you to whomever invented Advil.
Nothing. It’s being years.
My friend invited me to the park for a bike ride and brought a joint (legal). I was not expecting that but we had a blast!
I know states are legal, but most are “legal in private areas”. Such as, you can smoke at home, but not in public.
You SURE it was legal to smoke at the park?
Depends on the state. Here in California, people smoke it out in public just like cigarettes.
Here in Germany we can also just smoke in public areas. There are some rules about it but no one really cares anyways (except the idiot politicians and cops in Bavaria)
