At what step do you struggle the most?

  • Buglefingers@lemmy.world
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    7 months ago

    Meeting people, especially since I really dislike the idea of making someone uncomfortable or putting them is such a position. If I’m out in public I do not want to ask out someone who’s working a service job and I rarely talk to people otherwise. So unless there’s a good setting for natural talking to happen it feels rude/unwanted as they just want to do their thing in public.

    • Scrubbles@poptalk.scrubbles.techEnglish
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      7 months ago

      Nah, just drop the feeling stupid part. The night I met my wife I had just one drink too many so I had turned off my ability to think I was stupid - and I ended up talking about Lord of the Rings lore. Which she loved. If I had listened to that part of myself I would have held back and thought it was stupid, and my entire life would have gone differently.

  • kowcop@aussie.zoneEnglish
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    7 months ago

    Honestly, social media… Facebook is just absolutely full of bullshit meme’s for every type of occasion, and clicking on a single one sends people down that rabbithole. Eg… Say a person has a breakup with a person who exhibits some narcissistic traits and then relates to a meme about it and clicks on it (or pause too long), next minute the feed is full of gender hating memes, groups and pages to feed that part of the brain, and I think it is incredibly unhealthy. It just seemed a lot easier to meet people before heads were filled with social media influence

    • Scrubbles@poptalk.scrubbles.techEnglish
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      7 months ago

      oh my god reddit was the worst with this. “Oh my god he had a beer after work? He’s an alcoholic, you can do so much better, DUMP HIM. RED FLAG GET OUT”

      • HEXN3T@lemmy.blahaj.zone
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        7 months ago

        Yeah, I pretty much only meet people from connections anymore. I don’t remember the last time I actually met someone because I went out of my way to talk to them. It sucks.

  • spicy pancake@lemmy.zipEnglish
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    7 months ago

    I currently hate my body and don’t feel comfortable dating until I like it again, as dating involves finding others who like your body (and other things about you, but still)

    I’m sure there are people who would want to date me in my current body as well as my future (hopefully improved) body, but I just can’t summon any confidence while I feel like this.

    Obviously there’s some mental health problems I need to work on too. I’m fortunate to have decent psychiatric care at this stage in my life and am slowly progressing in that area, and trying my damnedest to ramp up body improvement efforts.

    I went to the gym today, at least. :)

    • 200ok@lemmy.world
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      7 months ago

      I feel this.

      I don’t have any love for myself, let alone spare any for someone else.

    • Nikls94@lemmy.world
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      6 months ago

      What helped me with that was “there’s a fetish for everything” which ended up correct, but I fucked up later.

      Proud of you for hitting the gym 💪 or as a snowman ⛄️ would say: time to turn these sticks into logs 🥢🔜 🪵

  • some_guy@lemmy.sdf.org
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    7 months ago

    Dating apps suck now. Thankfully, I met the right person and got rid of them.

    Before smartphones, when comms on apps were more like emails, I had much better openings. I can’t be funny or interesting in a few sentences.

    • CanadaPlus@lemmy.sdf.org
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      7 months ago

      Best interpretation of the question.

      We also just want to keep track of all these natural cycles that have no guarantee of having any reasonable ratio. Every calendar system except, like, Epoch is a little dumb because of that. It’s unavoidable.