People who make me feel like crap or worse off then when I encountered them consistently are written off and out of my life
Doesn’t matter if its family, nobody is entitled to your attention and suffering and it does nobody any real good for you to succumb to the inevitable dysfunction it creates in your life and relationships and also material conditions.
“Always eat your dessert first”
Meaning, when you feel overwhelmed by a huge task or a long list of tasks in front of you, start with the easiest, smallest and most pleasant parts. That way you overcome inertia and the feeling of standing in front of a huge, looming mountain, and get in the groove.
Once you’ve started, the next task on the list is just a little bigger than the last, which you’ve just successfully completed. That way you can get a lot done, step by step.
When only the biggest and most difficult tasks are left, you can break them down into smaller steps (don’t “clean the house”, just “pick up this one thing and put it away”), and again, do the easiest steps first.
Some people say you should start with the hardest stuff to get it behind you, but I have ADHD and trying that just keeps me from starting anything at all.
I have a whole growing plethora of these, rules of thumb I consider in the long scheme of organization. Where would I start if not to ask about stuff?
Quit being poor is the only thing that will remedy most of your problems.
Don’t have your mouth write checks your ass can’t cover
Or
Under promise while over deliver
@cheese_greater@lemmy.world
It was to care about other’s wellbeing. I remember when it clicked, and it was the first moral principle I consciously followed
Work on diagnosing and fixing the problem first, worry about appointing blame later (if at all).
I can’t save the world, but I can make my corner a little nicer.
Decision results in bad outcome. Oh well, lesson learned.
If someone tells you something, that something does not get repeated without asking for permission first. People don’t have to say “can I tell you this in confidence?” Absolutely everything is kept in confidence.
ITT Americans using morning news headlines to cope with their miserable 3rd world existence.
When deciding what to do, the order of trumps is legal, then prudent, then right. Do what is legal unless what is prudent is illegal, then do what is prudent. If doing what is right is neither prudent or legal, do it anyway because it’s right.
Never start fights with people. Always be prepared to finish a fight someone else starts with you, quickly, without posturing, hesitation, or mercy. Regardless of their size, shape, color, creed, or uniform, bullies can never be allowed to win.
When solving a problem, always start with the simplest possibility first.
Never lend anyone: Your truck, your pen, your chainsaw, or your wife. No matter what, they’re going to do something with them that you’re not going to like.
You can never have too many pens, flashlights, knives, or bullets.
People either enhance or diminish your life. Very few are neutral.
Treat them accordingly.
What makes a man turn neutral? Lust for gold? Power? Or were you just born with a heart full of neutrality?
As a counter to perfectionism: “If it’s worth doing, then it’s worth doing poorly.”
MVP (Minimum Viable Product) is a good tool of thumb also. What is the simplest end result you can work towards to establish a foundation/working model you can iterate over if necessary later to “perfect”
If it works for you, do it. Ignore what other people think
“First is best”
To avoid overthinking decisions that don’t really matter, the first acceptable choice is the correct one.
Save your indecision for stuff that matters.
I’m sure your wife loves you…
“Babe, why do you only last 2 minutes when we make love?”
“I’m first to cum! I win at sex!”
Relates to intuition right?
Adapt or die.