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Cake day: August 16th, 2023

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  • There would have to be some dramatic changes in the world socially and politically before I’ll feel even remotely comfortable having kids. Also my finances would need to change.

    And my family also has some genetic issues I’d rather not pass on.

    Adoption is an option, but I’m pretty sure I don’t even want one in the first place. When I was younger I thought having kids seemed like a sucker’s game. My opinion has softened on that a bit, but it’s still difficult to imagine actually wanting children.





  • An enormous percentage, especially in the current housing market, however…

    Many (most?) American cities have wildly inadequate public transit and are prone to sprawl. Many Americans live in apartments, but are a multiple mile walk from their grocery store. If there’s any public transit at all it’s probably an infrequent and unreliable bus line that may not go anywhere near their home to begin with. They live in apartments, but are not anywhere near ‘downtown’.

    These are problems that need to be solved, and quickly, but public transit is best grown with a city, which didn’t happen. Inserting a subway after the fact is difficult, expensive, and slow.

    The reality of right-now (which is all a renter is likely to be able to consider financially) is that a reliable car is an essential item in most parts of the country.










  • The post neither implies nor states that ‘closet trans’ and ‘shitty cis’ are the only possibilities. There’s obviously a lot of cis men who would take the offer of transition information in stride. The OP isn’t judging you.

    As for the whole American thing, you’re right, you did go wild.